Let’s talk about GOALS and IDENTITY and how they are intertwined.
Recently, a friend of mine, @brianabontofit posted a challenge asking three very important questions:
1. What are 5 things you like about yourself?
2. What are 5 things you need to work on?
3. How is your identity helping or hurting you?
This inspired my own post about leaving zombie-mode behind and taking action to manifest the life I’ve always dreamed of living! So, I wanted to list below my answers to these important questions about identity.
1. I like my ambition, my ability to talk to anyone about nearly anything, the resiliency that I’ve cultivated, my dedication to bettering myself, and my introspective nature.
2. I need to work on being a little less “all or nothing,” how I handle failure, my need to please people, caring less about what things look like on paper and more about how they fit into my life, and going easier on myself.
3. My identity is HELPING me because I identify as a self-aware person who seeks to find the balance between self-acceptance and self-improvement. There have been many times where my identity has HURT me because of the amount of pressure I would place on myself.
As I’ve grown into adulthood these past few years I’ve realized that identity is fluid and constantly evolving, as we are always growing and changing in our various developmental stages. We can’t get so attached to the person we think we are, or who we want to be. There are oh so many factors that contribute to WHO WE ARE that are simply beyond our control. Now, we nearly ALWAYS have control over our behavior and that actions that we take, but what we can’t control is what happens to us in our lives. We can’t foresee the curveballs life will throw at us, that will inevitably lead us to adapt and grow, or whither. These adaptations eventually become the very foundation of who we are.
Think about it.. look back at a pivotal moment in your life where you faced a major obstacle or milestone. I have no doubt that you either honed an important skill to adjust yourself to the changing environment around you, or added a new skill to your repertoire entirely.
Today, @brianabonitofit ‘s post about BELIEFS made me remember my absolute favorite quote: “She believed she could, so she did.” When I was at university, working toward my goal of finishing my B.A. in English in 3 years, I used this quote as my inspiration. I even painted a canvas with these words across it. I absolutely, 100%, believe that your beliefs about yourself determine your capabilities. I even cited this quote in an interview with a local newspaper that was covering my story upon graduation (I couldn’t find that exact interview archived online, but here’s a different article that details how I lived by this quote).
This was such a pivotal point in my life, when all of my hard work finally came to fruition and I attribute that quote, and the mindset it stands for, to my success.
If you have some extra time today, ask yourself these questions. Do it for YOU! I bet your answers will surprise you.
As always, thanks so much for reading.
Wishing You Well,