If you’re anything like me, you’ve heard the same clichés over and over again and wondered if there might just be some truth to them. And you’ve also heard from parents, and perhaps professors, that clichés are clichés for a reason (I apologize in advance for using that word 87 times in this post).
If there’s anything I’ve learned in my 23 years on this planet, it is that a lot of them are in fact, true. Or, rather that there is some level of truth to these fabled repetitive phrases.
The adages I’ve posted here have been echoed to me in fortune cookies, in movie & literature motifs, and explained to me in a fanciful way by my 7 year-old niece.
So, without further ado, here they are:
#1. JUST DO IT! –This one is not so much of a cliché as it is the trademark of the world’s most famous shoe company. Ah so simple, yet so memorable. I’m sure Dan Wieden feels very proud of himself for gleaning inspiration from the last words of a death row inmate. As he should! That phrase has become so synonymous with the Nike brand that I’m fairly confident in saying, if someone even THINKS about transcribing those three little words in that particular order, even on a small-time blog, Nike gets royalties (I’ll keep you posted).
But in all seriousness, whatever you’re putting off, GET IT OVER WITH! Put yourself out there, swallow the frog, stop beating around the bush (oh wait that’s a completely different cliché). I used to tell myself, “when such and such happens THEN I’ll go after my goals” or “it only makes sense to jump through A, B, and C hoops before I get to do L, M, N, O, P! Really people, I didn’t need an English degree to start a blog, I mean clearly I know how to string a few words together, or letters at least.
When I was in school I developed this false believe that a piece of paper with the words “Bachelor of Arts” would magically make me qualified for all the writing I could have already been doing to hone my craft. Yes, I was constantly writing for my class, BUT to submit for publishing, or start a blog?! Oh no, (shocked gasps all around) now that was something only people with a PhD in composition could do. I never allowed myself to be taken seriously as a writer because I didn’t put myself out there.
In regards to earning my NASM certification in personal training, I could say something similar. I bought the self study packet, and made my timeline. I waited a while to book my test date but I knew once I did it would be time to buckle down and get on an actual study schedule.
I used to always think, yea I like to workout but I’m no physical therapist protégé. Who am I to tell people how to #fitness? And it wasn’t that I lacked confidence, or even the skill set, I just had to change my mindset.
You may not realize it, but you have to stop these thoughts before they creep in. Your beliefs will hinder you in ways you didn’t even know existed.
Speaking of mindset, that brings me to my next cliché!
#2. “Whether you think you can or you can’t…you’re right!” Most famously said by Henry Ford. –This is what I’ve come to think of as an absolute truth.
I’ve seen this in action in my own life, as well as my clients. We often limit ourselves with our perception of what we believe is possible.
You don’t think it’s possible to track your food intake and change that late night eating habit? Prove yourself WRONG. If you don’t try, you’ll never truly know.
Don’t be afraid to set goals and fail. A lot of times people would rather take the safe route. I say if you’re going to commit to something: GO ALL THE WAY! Go big or go home! What I’m trying to say is, don’t short change yourself, set big goals in the long term. But, shorter term goals that will act as milestones leading you up to the big one.
At every turn you’re going to face seemingly insurmountable obstacles. Whether that be money, time, acts of God, or life in general; but it doesn’t matter STAY THE COURSE. Readjust to what life throws at you and just because someone says you can’t doesn’t mean you won’t prove them wrong.
Also remember this is about mindset. You don’t have to declare your goals before the world if you fear being ridiculed for your ambition. Get a journal, write down your plan, trust a few close friends with the journey you’re about to embark on and get to work!
When I decided I wanted to graduate college in 3 years I wasn’t shouting it from the roof tops. I knew there would be countless naysayers and people dying to infect me with their negativity. So I kept my head down and my nose to the grindstone. I didn’t even tell my college advisors until my plan was well underway because I didn’t want anyone trying to talk me out of it. Even when I was well on my way to that goal I had friends say “oh you’re really doing that.” And I received patronizing glances from professors after they lectured me to no avail about how impossibly hard it would be to work, take a full course load, and try to have a life. BUT HERE I AM!
Often times our biggest obstacle is the voice within ourselves that’s filled with fear of failure and doubt. I used to be petrified of failure because I spent a good portion of my life unjustly feeling like one. But now I firmly believe, there are no failures, there is only failure. Failing isn’t a thing that someone can be, but rather, it’s a state of mind that every single person on the Earth’s surface is bound to encounter at one point in his or her life.
Van Gogh said it best, “If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.”
Don’t waste another second in self doubt, grab a brush and get to work!!!
#3. A leopard doesn’t change its spots. — Oh goodness did I have to learn this one the hard way. But then again, don’t we all?
Now to dearfitkris-ify this one, I’m not saying that people never change. I’m saying that people usually are who they inherently are and although they CAN change their behavior that doesn’t necessarily alter who they are on a core-level. But, it’s not a blanket statement.
I am just generally advising you to believe people when they show you who they are. The same is true for work environments, cities, and relationships. In terms of our relationships with others and places don’t forget that you’re a leopard with spots too, one that might not mesh well in certain environments or with particular individuals. Don’t expect to go fitting your square peg in a round hole.
It’s easy to blame others when something goes wrong in our lives. Whether that be because another individual is directly involved or because we’re taking it out on those closest to us (as people tend to do). But looking at the big picture may show us it wasn’t an individual person or place that was the problem, but rather who we were in that relationship or in that place. Just like how hydrogen and oxygen on there own are fairly neutral, but together they can cause a combustion. Think of yourself as a chemical compound that has the potential to be reactant in all situations, some more so than others.
So there you have it, proof that there is truth to the idioms you’ve heard time and time again.
I sincerely hope you’ve garnered some wisdom from these 3 common phrases and can apply them to enhance your life in someway or another. In other words, learn from the mistakes I’ve made so you don’t succumb to these pitfalls. But just remember, what’s meant to be will be :). Okay I’m done with the clichés now, I promise! After all, you know what they say…There is no use in beating a dead horse.